Want my advice?
Probably not.
But just in case you do… 🙃
Recently I was put on the spot when a friend asked me what 3 words of advice I had for people. I didn’t have the time to put my thoughts together to think of the “best” answer, but this is what came to mind first:
Advocate for yourself
Take risks
Stay curious
ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF
Get comfortable advocating for yourself - even if it means disappointing others. Let’s be real—advocating for yourself can feel awkward, especially if you’re used to being a people-pleaser. But you are the only person on this planet who truly knows what you need, and often, you’re the only one who can stand up for those needs. A big component of this is the reality is accepting that you are going to disappoint people along the way - that is a part of life. Does that mean you should be a heartless pr*ck or take pride in letting people down? Um, no... But trying to make everyone happy will a)simply not work and b) cost you way too much in the process. Learn what your needs are, how to communicate them and - most importantly - be the one to enforce your boundaries (‘cause speaking them ain’t always enough, my friend).
TAKE RISKS
Get comfortable taking risks. This advice is really for myself, but ultimately to win the game, you’ve gotta play - and playing will involve some risks! They say that ‘everything you desire is on the other side of fear’ and boy, have I seen that to be true in my life. Now, this doesn't mean be reckless. There’s a lot of power in calculated risk—knowing the variables, considering the potential outcomes, and stepping forward with intention. But avoiding risk altogether? That’s avoiding the full experience of life, in my humble opinion. Some of the juiciest parts of life come from trust falls.
And speaking of fear…
STAY CURIOUS
Lean in with curiosity, rather than fear, Like I have said before, fear is not your enemy BUT it shouldn't be the one driving. When I have been in moments of overwhelming fear, something that has really helped me is switching into a state of curiosity instead. Allowing myself to witness the wonder rather than shrivel or shut down. Doing this turns moments of fear into an opportunity to explore the unknown, and also helps us shift away from a place of judgment or assumption, which opens us up to so much more love, abundance, and opportunity! #winning